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asks: Who have I manipulated with guilt? Who have I smothered with “help”? Who have I blamed for my unhappiness? codependents guide to the 12 steps pdf
You can work through the heavy emotional lifting in the safety of your own home. Welcome
(Based on principles from Melody Beattie’s work and Codependents Anonymous) If I don’t control this situation
Your inventory must include your hidden motives. Did you give a gift expecting something in return? Did you offer help to feel superior? Did you stay quiet to avoid conflict, then secretly resent the other person?
This is the surrender step. For codependents, “turning it over” feels like abandonment. You might think, If I don’t control this situation, everything will fall apart.